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No Such Thing As a Bad Kid

No Such Thing as a Bad Kid

No Such Thing As a Bad Kid: Understanding and Responding to the Challenging Behavior of Troubled Children and Youth is receiving great reviews. Written specifically for teachers, child- and youth-care professionals, and foster parents, No Such Thing is packed with information for anyone who lives or works with youngsters at risk - including parents of children with ADD, ADHD, and other emotional and behavioral conditions. This empowering handbook opens by portraying misbehavior as a call for help. It then guides you through "decoding" the message and, via hundreds of hands-on tips and sample dialogues, into approaches for revolutionizing your interactions with troubled kids and their interactions with the world. Even parents of children not at risk will benefit from this book. See below for reviews and a book excerpt.


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What Child Care Professionals Say About This Book:

"Written with loving care to feed and fill all who work with young people."

  • —Bernard Levine, Ph.D.
  • Clinical psychologist
  • Former clinical director, Walker Home & School, Inc.

"I personally learned a tremendous amount from the perceptive approach the author uses. He 'becomes the kid,' offering a unique understanding of these young people."

  • —Mary Allen
  • Editor, Treatment Today

"A must-read for any teacher or principal working with children who demonstrate challenging behaviors."

  • —David Castelline, Ed.D.
  • Principal, Underwood Elementary School
  • Newton, Massachusetts

"Free of jargon and complicated theory … this book offers validation and support to caretakers by normalizing frustrations, mistakes, poor decisions, and burnout, and by providing helpful, hopeful, and refreshing solutions."

  • —Foster-Care Team
  • ComCare Foster Care Program

"Sure to be an instant classic."

  • —Dennis J. Braziel, MSSA, LSW
  • Senior consultant, Child Welfare League of America

From Chapter Two, "Responding Versus Reacting"

It is not always easy to look for hidden messages when a child is pushing your buttons. It is far simpler to say, "I don't give a hoot why this kid is provoking me. She needs discipline—now!" We bark out the words, reach for our behavior management tools, and often, in the heat of anger, misuse them. Why? Because we are "wired" for self-protection and, when threatened, may react to provoking situations in vengeful, nonproductive ways…

Why do many caring adults become so upset with children that they react to them in nonproductive ways? One major reason is that when children in our care misbehave, we are likely to feel inadequate and psychologically attacked. Upon experiencing such an assault to our self-esteem, we are apt to retaliate by yelling, intimidating, and inappropriately disciplining them. The crux of the problem is that when kids act out, we tend to take it personally, because we feel that their behavior is a reflection of who we are.

The key to good behavior management is staying cool and responding to situations rather than reacting to them. Responding requires us to acknowledge the fragility of our self-esteem, then take time to look for the message behind distressing behavior, rather than immediately levy consequences. To do this we must first learn to manage our own behavior.


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